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Michele Rosenthal is an award-winning PTSD blogger, bestselling and award-nominated author, founder of HealMyPTSD.com, host of Changing Direction radio, and a former faculty member of the Clinical Development Institute for Timberline Knolls Residential Treatment Center. She is also a trauma survivor who struggled with posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) for over twenty-five years before launching a successful “healing rampage.” Her most recent books are Your Life After Trauma: Powerful Practices to Reclaim Your Identity (W. W. Norton) and Heal Your PTSD: Dynamic Strategies that Work (Conari Press).



61 Michele Rosenthal – Heal my PTSD!

Summary: Michele’s answer to the five questions! Listen to the full conversation on the player above; also available on iTunes and Stitcher.

Question 1: How do you define hope or what is your favorite quote about hope?

Michele Rosenthal:

Favorite Definition: The desire to have something that is so deep within you, you can already feel it even though you don’t yet have it.

Favorite quote: “I hope.” -Anonymous

Question 2: Who has shared the most hope with you?

Michele Rosenthal:

My mother is the person that always gave me hope.

Question 3: How have you used hope to make it through a difficult time in your life?

Michele Rosenthal:

I was drowning for almost 30 years and while everybody else didn’t know what to do with me or abandoned me, my mother kept continuing to say “you’re here. You can do this. You absolutely can do this”. It started when I was 13 – she started saying that to me where if I didn’t have hope in that moment, I would never have ever had it in any other moment.

When I was 13, I had an allergic reaction to a medication that turned me essentially into a full body burn victim. My body could not metabolize the medication, it sent it out through the skin and I literally lost 100% of the first two layers of my skin to these enormous blisters that required me to be placed in quarantine burn unit hospital room for a few weeks.

When my mom started noticing that I was having symptoms of something that didn’t seem right, she took me to all these doctors. Everyone kept telling her “Go home, you’re being such a Jewish mother. She has a virus. Let her sleep it off.” My mom kept saying this is not normal. They made her feel ridiculous. A week later when my skin started to erupt, she took me back to the doctor and the doctor examining me saying “I have no idea what’s happening, so we have two choices. You can go home and see how it goes or you could go to the hospital now.” All of the adults in the room turned and looked at me, “What do you want to do?” It’s heavy for a kid to make that kind of decision…

What I survived was toxic epidermal necrolysis syndrome which is a fancy way of saying that all of your skin dies and falls off. There was nothing to do to stop the progression of the illness, so eventually what happened was I was completely incapacitated for a series of weeks. There was a day that I so vividly recall I felt myself dying and I felt myself lifting up and leaving my body. I remember thinking, oh thank God because the pain was so indescribable that I just didn’t have it in me anymore to manage it. There were blisters everywhere including my eyes, so I was blinded for a period of time. I just thought I’d rather die. As I floated up toward the ceiling, there was a black tunnel ringed with white light and I just felt myself being pulled like by a magnet to this and it was very peaceful. It felt wonderful and this enormous, incredibly comforting energy just seemed to envelope me. I remember thinking, before I go I have to thank my parents because they had been at my bedside for two weeks, 24/7 already. I paused the feeling and just coming back far enough to say or not having gone far enough, I’m not really sure enough which…I paused the pull toward the tunnel long enough to say to my parents “Thank you, I love you, I’m dying.”

In that moment, Chris, like if you had a kid, they said that to you, what would your response be? My mother didn’t call the doctors. She was amazing. She just put her face close to mine and said “You are not going to die. You better pull through.” I said to her I don’t have the strength. I feel it. I’m going. I feel it. She said “Michele, you better go down deeper inside yourself than you’ve ever been and you find the strength to pull yourself through.”

I did what she told me to do. I went down deeper inside myself than I’ve ever been and I found the strength to pull myself through. Chris that I think is the first time that I ever learned and it was a lesson that my mom taught me. At that moment she said “Courage is a choice. Make it.” I learned that we can choose. Even in the moments that we don’t think we can do anything, I had to hope in that moment that she was right – that I could go further into myself than I had ever been and find the strength because I didn’t think there was any further place to go. I just allowed myself to hope that she knew what she was talking about and of course here I am today.

I came out of the hospital knowing I’m going to make a full physical recovery. I have scars, but they’re not anything that will stop me from being able to do what I want to do. I have some remnants of things that need to be kept up with and dealt with, but on the whole I’m perfectly fine. I’m healthy. I’m okay, but emotionally, I just wasn’t resilient. I fell into that black, deep place of depression and memories and anxiety and all the things that come with that. It was my mother through all those years, 24 years of thinking I was crazy until I was actually diagnosed with PTSD and then a few more years of recovery, all that time my mom constantly there saying to hope, to continue to connect with the idea that things could get better.

Question 4: How are you sharing hope today?

Michele Rosenthal:

Back to the idea of being individual, we all get to different places in our recovery depending on opportunities and who we are in our history, so I think we all reach whatever is right for us and wherever we decide. In the beginning of the work that I did I thought everyone wanted to heal and now I’m very careful not to promote or discuss that because some people really don’t. I think it’s important to let everybody decide what it is that they want and feel comfortable with.
My job is to continue raising awareness, to educate people so they understand where PTSD comes from. The crosses are very varied and PTSD is way more prevalent than the general population understands. Also, to keep writing and helping. I feel like we’re all in this together. Even at 100% recovery, we all are walking the same path. We are survivors, so in every moment that means we know each other in a way different than anyone else on earth does…

Today is the release date of my new book, Heal your PTSD – Dynamic Strategies That Work. That’s one of the ways that I continue to give back.

Question 5: How should I (the listener) begin to grow in hope or share hope today?

Michele Rosenthal:

(1) Find ways to reinforce your hope. It’s all about intention. More intentions, less expectation.
(2) Figure out how to deepen your belief that that hope is valid and that you actually can do this.
(3) Create those life-affirming experiences for you. It doesn’t have to be big.
(4) Research and education. Have an open mind to keep looking for the answer and trying things.
(5) Make the commitment to persevere no matter how horrible, how terrifying the recovery process is.

Listen to the full conversation on the player above; also available on iTunes and Stitcher.