James Costello has been trained in Improvisational Theatre in New York City, as well as traditional theatre at Lee Strasberg NY. He is also a Director, Producer, Choreographer, Social Media guru, Publicist, Set and Lighting Designer and fluent in French, Afrikaans and, naturally, English!
James aims to provide a LIVE, uncensored, thoroughly transparent “reality show”-like window into my everyday adventures and experiences living in Cape Town…not an ” edited highlights” life, but the truth, especially as a survivor of childhood maternal sexual abuse and struggling with depression and PTSD and the concomitant extreme loneliness.
“I am a stickler for absolute professionalism both on and off stage – I believe every person involved in the production must treat each other with kindness, dignity and respect!”
53 James Costello – Taking a break from hope – #isharehope
Summary: James’ answer to the five questions! Listen to the full conversation on the player above; also available on iTunes and Stitcher.
Question 1: How do you define hope or what is your favorite quote about hope?
“Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.” – Albert Einstein
Question 2: Who has shared the most hope with you?
I have a dear friend who I have not known in person who lives in the United Kingdom, who happens to be a Facebook friend and a follower and out of nowhere when I had two suicide attempts in December last year and I wrote my suicide note very carefully. I put it on Facebook because I wanted people to know the reason why. She read it and contacted me immediately. She stated on Facebook Messenger with me for 9 hours. She had a relative who survived a major surgery whom she thought she would lost and she said that I was important and I mattered and she wanted to make sure I survived as well.
She made me feel like a great spirit when I had a mediocre mind.
Question 3: How have you used hope to make it through a difficult time in your life?
I’m a survivor or sexual abuse from my mom and my father was an alcoholic and they both died very close to each other in 1991. I also had a nightmare at school and I had 24 hours of help. I had a childhood that was so far removed from anything stable and pure that all my ideas of love, trust, and normalcy are completely skewed. I had neither parents as a stable source. My father hated everything feminine, so I had to be really 100% boy and my mother hated everything masculine, so I had to be 100% girl. I had no idea of how to be James. That’s what robbed me the voice of hope and trust and faith and who am I. I understand how somebody would love me for my personality, but I have no idea how anybody would love me for me as a man.
I’ve been talking about it for a very long time online and there’s an initiative in South Africa called Blow the Whistle, an anti-rape initiative which I got involved in. I put my life story online. I must say I’m super happy that I did because I’ve had messages from people who had been in very dark places because they’ve made what I picked help them think of what somebody else have been going through. I have been able to help people to be connected to government agencies and get out of dark places and it led to very positive and light and bright things which rocked my world.
Question 4: How are you sharing hope today?
Everything I do has to help people. I’m probably one of the world’s worst business people because I don’t do anything for cash. I can’t be bought and I can’t be intimidated. If I like something I really like it. If I don’t like it, I don’t do malice, I don’t do hate and I don’t do bad reviews, I just go “not going there” and I move on. I love being able to give a voice to those who haven’t a voice. I have a big voice and I like to use it.
Question 5: How should I (the listener) begin to grow in hope or share hope today?
(1) Take a break. Rest. Stop looking for it.
(2) Take a look around you, look at other people and understand their lives.
(3) Do for you and do for others.
(4) Ask for help and it will come.